Healing Sexual Trauma
In this era of Me Too, we are becoming more and more aware of the prevalence of sexual assault and sexual trauma in the general population. While this was never a surprise to most women, in the past they suffered silently for the most part… afraid of the stigma of being a victim, often blaming themselves for the assault. Many did not realize how many of their sisters had also suffered these traumas at the hands of the masculine.
The beauty of Me Too lies in the collective reclamation of our voice, and in the healing power of being able to speak our truth, knowing that we are not alone. To be heard and witnessed, and supported in taking back our power. At the same time, the pitfall lies in perpetuating and re-creating the story, which if you are not careful can result in unintentionally taking on the role of victim. This leads to the question… how do we achieve balance? How do we heal and release this trauma so that it is not manifested in toxic patterns which continue to reverberate through our lives? Finally, how do we hold toxic masculinity accountable without driving a wedge between the masculine and feminine in society?
There is no one right answer. Most women, or men who have experienced sexual trauma will benefit from a variety of modalities to help them to recognize and release these painful memories, and the physical vestiges of these traumas that are stored in the body. One excellent therapy for accessing the subconscious mind and healing at this level is Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT), developed by Marisa Peer. RTT utilizes hypnotherapy to access the subconscious mind, regressing the person back to the root cause of their issue, and assisting them in re-contextualizing what happened to them, allowing them to take back their power and create a new narrative, letting go of the old story and any physical manifestation which may have resulted from that trauma. Other modalities include Somatic Experiencing, Sexological bodywork, EMDR, Tantric Bodywork, and the therapeutic use of psychedelics to reintegrate these fractured parts of ourselves. The combination that works for one person may be different from what works for another.
One of the commonly associated problems which arises from childhood sexual trauma is obesity. The reason for this is that the body associates being small, or attractive with danger. The subconscious mind decides that it is safer to be obese, because this makes the person less attractive and thus less likely to be victimized in the future. This is a type of armoring that the person takes on subconsciously, and usually they are unaware of the subconscious reason that they have such difficulty releasing weight. For this reason, sometimes it is advisable that someone who has difficulty with releasing weight be evaluated for possible history of trauma. If the person is aware of such a history, a complementary mode of therapy often helps such a person to be successful in WildFit. Occasionally, the trauma may have been severe enough that the person has completely blocked any memory of what happened to them. In this case, the person may report a spotty memory from their childhood with lots of holes in their memory. In this case, a modality such at RTT or somatic experiencing is highly advisable.
For any coach who has such a person in one of their challenge groups, I offer a discounted rate to persons who are in an active WildFit Challenge. I also offer a complementary RTT session to any person who signs up under the Early Bird Rate for one of my challenges.
Wildfit Coach/RTT Therapist